Lesson: Bears

Bears. Men come in all shapes and sizes. That's basically a given. One general shape is bear shaped. Bears are a subgroup in a larger gay culture. Generally a bear is a hairy, heavy set , hyper masculine gay man. Facial hair and a working class style tend to be associated with bears in gay culture.

Gay culture has room for everyone. From the smallest Thai lady-boy to over pumped body builders. For guys who are on the heavier side of life and/or are hairy beasts there is the category of Bear. A younger guy fitting the description could be referred to as a cub. Bears often like to find a cub to climb pole with. This has more to do with Gay men's fascination with cross generational sexuality (story for another day children) than anything else.

Love'em or leave'em. Bear's aren't for everyone. If a beefy man in boots with a thick beard and dirty jeans on isn't what turns you on, then so be it. If extra pounds on a dude is a deal breaker then Bear night at your local pub probably isn't where you should spend your rupees. At least have the courtesy to be polite as you walk by. Sexual attraction is a funny thing. I've never met two people attracted to the exact same thing. Two people might both be into getting spanked. But one prefers a bare handed spanking while the other really only gets off if they use a belt on him. All gay men like men but that does not mean that a gay man will like every gay man. The point being that it is OK to not be sexually attracted to one type of guy or the other. If nerdy white geeks don't get you hard because all you fantasize about is thick Latino thugs then I applaud you. Not for your specific choice in type of man but for recognizing what does turn you on. Once you know what pumps your well then you will have an easier time blending your desires with someone elses.

The point being that just because you are hairy thick gay boy or short or excessively tall or too skinny it doesn't mean that you can't find sex and/or love. Bears are my favorite example of this. There is a thriving community of Bears around the world simply because these Gay men have decided to express the joy of being them selves.

Next Lesson: The Closet. Peek-a-Boo! I see you, sucking dick.